Dream Killers

Visualize yourself 5 years from now; what do you see? Do you have the same habits, fashion, or hobbies? Do you work in the same industry? Are you self-employed, or have you climbed up the ladder at someone else’s firm?

Is the vision of your future even clear?

I view life like driving in a car. On a rainy day, your vision isn’t as clear. This makes the trip take longer, why? Obviously, because you drive slower to avoid crashing.

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Now apply this to life.

When you’re going through a rough time and storm clouds are in your life, it’s easy for your vision to get blurry. And without a clear vision, you’re progress will slow down.

A friend of mine goes into great detail about the importance that focus has in your journey to success. His post inspired me to write about this topic today, because while reading it, I realized that I experience one of the biggest challenges to focus – self-doubt.

Doubt is the rain that causes your vision to blur.


Doubt is a dream killer that we’ve all experienced at some point or another. It makes you lose sight of what’s actually possible. In last week’s post, “lack of belief” was actually #2 in the list of the top 9 things that block success.

Contrary to popular belief, I actually struggle with this self-destructive, dream killer on a regular basis. Self-doubt eats away at the small accomplishments that I have; diminishing them to the basic status quos of what’s to be “expected”.

It makes me feel like I’m not where I should be in life, like I’m not doing enough. Sometimes, I even feel crazy because, surely no one else is this critical of themselves.

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But, the rational part of me gets that I’m not alone. So, if you ever have days where you doubt yourself, here are a few useful tips that have helped ease my mind:

  • Remember that you are not a failure just because you made a mistake (source).
  • Don’t be so hard on yourself. Remember that you’ve accomplished a lot; give yourself credit.
  • Write it out. This can be so therapeutic. Write out your current struggles, how you’ve overcome them, and even your achievements to keep track of your progress.
  • Have faith, don’t just believe… nuff said 🤷🏽‍♀️

So basically…

Don’t let dream killers consume you. Keep your vision clear of self-doubt because…

40 thoughts on “Dream Killers

  1. Five years can really change a lot. Five years ago I was pregnant with my first son working in a job that I did not like. Fast forward and I have two beautiful boys and I absolutely love what I do! Always stay positive and keep moving forward!

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  2. Great advice, just believe in ourselves, no one else will if you don’t, so don’t be hard on yourself. Regain self esteem for yourself not for anybody else.

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  3. What a brilliant advice. It is vital to believe in oneself and surround yourself things that are uplifting because what you allow will empower you, and when thoughts begin to empower you, you start to limit your authority.

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  4. This is truly a wonderful and eye-opening post, self-doubt is a dream killer. It’s so important to block out any negative thoughts, and it’s imperative to be kinder to ourselves. We’re our own worst enemies at times, so we have to remember to cut ourselves some slack. You’re amazing and you can do anything you put your mind to!

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  5. Love the spirit, girl. Everybody should be thus strong enough not to think that were not beautiful or good enough or a failure. Life is so short to be depressed. Cheer up girls!

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  6. I really love reading this article, it so inspiring! I agree that it is so important to give credit to yourself, never doubt to yourself and capability, love and belief to yourself. Thanks for sharing!

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  7. This post touched me more at where it hurts. That doubt just sets in when life hits me hard but reading this, I know what to do whenever that happens. Thanks for sharing. With all the self-care tips I’ve gotten so far this year, 2019 will surely be a good one for me.

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  8. This was such a nice read. My life has totally changed when I look back at it 5 years. I have had a whole year where I was facing self doubts. I have come out of it now, but still sometimes feel that I may get anxious and get back into it. I hope to stay positive and not feel anxious at all. Thanks for the lovely post.

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    1. Thanks for opening up, I was anxious just writing the post wondering how it would be received, but knowing that people can relate makes me feel so relieved and empowered for my next post!

      But also remember to power through life’s lows, because without them, you wouldn’t fully appreciate life’s highs.

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  9. I think we all have moments when we wish things would go a lot more smoother. But, honestly, those are the ones we grow from. They teach us to appreciate the good moments as well.

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  10. I love Henry Ford’s quote. There is so much someone else can believe in you, but how you think can make a huge difference being a doer or a naysayer.

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  11. Self-doubt can be a real destructive monster and even the most successful people have their moments of self-doubt. The difference is that they take that fear and keep pushing. We just need to give ourselves a gentle nudge and pick ourselves back up. Enjoyed your post.

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