What It Actually Takes To Overcome Self Doubt For Good

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If you’re here, you’ve probably been experiencing some self doubt lately. You’ve probably done something you weren’t too proud of, or may be downright embarrassed by. Or you could be going back and forth in your head about a decision you’re just unsure about.

Well, I’m going to tell you about this weird dream I had that actually taught me exactly how to overcome self doubt, for good this time.

Of course, I thought I had already overcome my self doubt, but I guess I still have some growing to do. Story of my life! Nevertheless, I think you’ll find this as helpful as I did.

I’m going to analyze my dream to the T and you’re going to walk away with some new ways to overcome self doubt for good!

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The only way to get over self doubt is to change the way you view failure. Successful people see failure as a lesson learned, rather than a defeat.

After reading this, you’ll feel a whole lot better about whatever’s been bothering you, and you’ll be able to face it more confidently.

The Dream

I walked outside and noticed that traffic was at a literal stand-still. The lights at the intersection weren’t even changing!

Weird.

I didn’t know exactly what I had to do, but I knew that there was somewhere that I needed to be.

So, I started walking up the sidewalk, which happened to be on an unreasonably steep hill. And the further I walked, the steeper it got.

I stopped and thought about just grabbing my car, but there was no way that I was going to sit in traffic that clearly wasn’t going anywhere.

Now, this walk wasn’t just physically difficult, it was also mentally taxing.

Not only was I walking up a steep hill in the hot sun, but I was also walking in front of A LOT of people sitting in their cars. Oh, and I should mention…

I was also in my underwear.

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This is what it felt like walking in my underwear in my dream. Erykah Badu, filming the music video for ‘Window Seat’ with “Evolve” written on her back.

Embarrassing….

I tried acting normal, like maybe no one would notice my lack of pants.

But the stares pierced through my soul, even though every window was tinted and I couldn’t actually see anyone’s eyes looking at me directly.

I just felt the stares. You know that feeling that you get when you think someone’s watching you? Yeah, that.

Part of me wanted to just disappear, but something inside of me pressed forward because I knew that there was somewhere that I really needed to be.

I was determined.

The hill got steeper and steeper to the point that I needed to use my hands and feet to climb it.

overcoming self doubt - climbing a mountain

Eventually, the walk became so difficult that I had to put more focus on getting up the hill, than on the people that may or may not have been staring at me.

When I finally made it to the top, the hill flattened out and I forgot all about my humiliation. At that point, all I felt was fulfillment.

Then I woke up.

How Does This Relate To Overcoming Self Doubt?

The dream represents our journey throughout life.

You may not know exactly what your life’s purpose is, but you feel a sense of duty to find out and live up to your full potential.

Just like, in the dream, I didn’t know exactly what I needed to do, but I felt compelled to set out and figure it out.

The cars represent everyone in life trying to achieve their goals.

We’re all in this life searching for our purpose, trying to get somewhere.

The road is congested because it represents the overly saturated route that EVERYONE chooses to follow to be successful.

For example, most people go off to college and get a degree to get a better career.

overcoming self doubt - going to college like everyone else

I’m not saying that college is bad, but because so many people do it, the workforce is now oversaturated with people and their degrees.

Nowadays, you need a Master’s degree or some sort of certification to stand out.

What’s even more interesting is that about 41% of these same college graduates aren’t even working in a job that requires a degree.

Had they gone a different route, they would have less debt and be closer to figuring out their purpose in life. Yet, like the cars in the dream, their careers are moving slowly, if at all.

Again, I’m not against college, I actually have a Bachelor’s degree in Communication and Media.

However, there may be a better way to find your life’s purpose than by doing what everyone else does.

Take the author of this post for example. She doesn’t have a degree, yet she’s VERY successful. And according to this, some of the wealthiest and most influential entrepreneurs actually dropped out of college.

Go figure!

What these successful people have in common is that they took the sidewalk, rather than the congested road.

They were confident enough to carve out their own route and they’ve made it much farther than everyone else!

overcoming self doubt - take the road less travel by

Two roads diverged in a wood and I – I took the one less traveled by, and that has made all the difference.
Robert Frost

The point is, create your own path.

If you follow the crowd, chances are, you’ll never reach your goals fast enough. But if you pave your own path, then the chances of you getting there are a lot higher.

Granted, it’ll be harder, but if you stay persistent and move confidently without self doubt, then you’ll get where you’re going.

As you learned in my dream, the only way I made it up that hill was by focusing on my path and not everyone else’s. This means that there’s no room for doubt or regret.

The underwear in the dream represents vulnerability.

overcoming self doubt - being vulnerable

Doing things you’re passionate about may be nerve-wracking.

That’s because you’re giving the world an opportunity to judge a very intimate part of yourself. A part of yourself that you hold near and dear.

When you have anxiety, this feeling gets amplified times 1000!

If you don’t know what being vulnerable feels like when you have anxiety, just imagine exposing your chest area in a gunfight, you feel defenseless and uneasy.

It’s kind of intimidating.

Especially if you’re not very confident about that part of yourself just yet. This is where self doubt comes in and shuts everything down.

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But if you take your mind off of what people may be thinking and focus on your journey, you’ll get a lot farther along.

The hill got steeper in the dream because life will get tougher the closer you get to success.

As you get further along in your journey, things are going to get harder, that’s just reality.

You could always sit in the car, stuck in traffic like everyone else did in the dream. OR, you can put your hands to the pavement, and make some real moves happen.

The tinted windows and that feeling of being stared at represents the fear of judgement.

If you remember in the dream, I couldn’t see whether or not people were even staring at me, it was more of an internal feeling.

Most of the time, this is the case. You never really know if people are judging you or if they’re admiring you, so why waste time on it at all?

I mean, let’s be honest, when you start carving out your own path, people are going to notice.

Your mom’s going to be disappointed if you drop out of college. Your friends are going to wonder why you quit your secure job to be a freelancer.

It comes with the territory because it’s just uncommon for someone to choose the harder path… hence, “the one less traveled by.”

But that’s also why there are less successful people in the world than there could be.

In Conclusion

It’s funny how much you can learn from a dream.

This one taught me exactly what it takes to overcome self doubt and I hope you picked up some useful tips too.

If this post lit a fire under you to get moving in your journey, let me know in the comments!

Peace.

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